A relationship with my friend
I’m lying on the couch
Why in the world
Is it so painful?
I have been in this dark place before,
But I can’t stop crying.
Why does the beginning of relationships seem
Why is it often so
Why do we embrace it
How have we managed to go
From point A, “Great!”
To point B, “Horror”?
Are we that ignorant?
Our expectations for each other have
Our miscommunications have
At the end, our avoidance has
I wish you had told me what
I wish I had done the same
I wish you had not lost your trust
For reasons still unknown
I cared so much
I cherished every moment
Spent with you.
I know you enjoyed your time with me,
Then how and why have things
Are we not the same?
Have we changed? Aged?
Did I miss something?
What? Where? Why?
Why do I need to leave you now?
Is it because it’s a timely thing
Or, is it because it’s a “right” thing
– Olga Africawala, April 2018
I am not afraid of you anymore!
You are better than I thought about you before.
I know what you mean!
You are not about nothing or everything.
Is simpler than it appears,
I just have to be present and clear.
Don’t say what you don’t think, don’t say what you don’t feel,
But say what you think and say what you feel.
Don’t blame, don’t criticize, don’t hurt,
But listen, respect, and support.
Don’t say who is bad; don’t say who is good,
But rather how you both contribute.
You have a choice, you have a voice
That no one can take from you.
I am waiting for you
To practice, to grow, and learn more about you.
– Olga Africawala, December 2010